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I know it's a bit paradox: Posting on NAO means posting so that everybody can see it. Until recently my journal worked kinda like a diary in which I posted my most personal thoughts. It didn't matter that you've read it because I trust you and it's okay if you see it. But now, three people in my clique which I also referred to in my posts got to know about NAO.
That's not really nice but I can't change it. I just want to know if there's a way to protect at least my journal (every journal) by letting only people read it who are members on NAO... Just an idea. I have to go now!

"Sie wollen nichts anderes. Sie wollen kämpfen! Sie sind Soldaten! Fucking Wahnsinnige!" - Noel G.

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"you're mighty brave in cyber-space, flame boy!"

What's funny is that we find it easier to spill our heart and souls to people we don't know. However we will not tell our friends the same things because we don't want to see the reaction on their face when they read our thoughts. It's very weird. The fact that we are saying our innermost thoughts are proof that we do indeed want others to read it. We want others to accept it. The fact is, it's easy for for us to tell total strangers because there is hardly no chance that we will ever meet in reality.

I've thought about this for a while, but unfortunately I don't see a way to do add this functionality with a quick fix. The problem is that the whole site was written with no read restrictions in mind. Your journal posts are appearing in a thousand places (the journal, the individual topics, the homepage, forum listings, unread journals, best topics archive, through the API etc.).

Also I'm not completely sure if it would solve your problem since it only takes a minute to sign up and get full access to your posts :/

'Yeah, That's what Jesus would do. Jesus would bomb Afghanistan. Yeah.' - snowlion

Also I'm not completely sure if it would solve your problem since it only takes a minute to sign up and get full access to your posts :/

True. I know. And it alredy happened, for reasons I don't know because if they're keen on reading my stuff, sign up wouldn't have been necessary...

Anyways, you're right and if it's too much work, leave it the way it is. I've got no problem with that anyway. The only problem I have is those people who read my stuff and judge the wildest things about who I am without confronting me with that. Reading one's journal doesn't mean to know someone.

"Sie wollen nichts anderes. Sie wollen kämpfen! Sie sind Soldaten! Fucking Wahnsinnige!" - Noel G.

Yeah, I have the same worries.

I started off with having another online journal elsewhere in this cyberspace where most of my clique in school had one too, and we just read one another's journals, comment and encourage one another. (As to why we still need to have journals on top of seeing each other in sch... that's another story.)

But up to a certain point, there are certain thoughts I would prefer to share with total strangers or someone whom does not operate within the same mould of my society (therefore may give me another view). Also there come times whereby the very things that trouble me may stem from the very people I see in sch. (As to why perfect strangers wld be apt listeners, that'll be prob another discussion). Which leads me to here.

I found this site once when I was researching on elevators (there was a thread on it, in one of the forums). Then a 2nd time when I was looking up abt Matrix. And decided to sign in cos I liked what i read. I am very sure if any of my frens are comp geeks, they would easily find this site too. Yup, and my flatemate seems to know that I've been frequenting this site, cos she's asking what's the site with the black backgrd? So I admit... I do have thoughts of leaving this community, getting the posts deleted etc.

I'm not sure if there's any form of "protection", since anyone can sign up. Ultimately perhaps it is up to what we choose to write that is perhaps the best "protection"?

"Constantly talking isn't necessarily communicating." --Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind.

I chose to use a screenname, most people I know in real life don't know. Still, I admit I'm not writing down very delicate things, like I wouldn't do anywhere on the net.

In your case, I can't really remember anything very delicate either. Also, there's always the possibility of posting "anonymously", although I'm not sure if that's really a very good idea.

'Repent, Harlequin!' said the Ticktockman. 'Get stuffed!' the Harlequin replied, sneering.

One way to achieve some kind of privacy would be the ability to mark journal entries as "private", so that only your friends (as defined in your NAO friends list) can read the corresponding thread.

Note that this suggestion is at most meant as a possible basis for a discussion. By no means is it a feature request! While I kinda like the idea, I'm not sure whether...

• ...the concept of private messages would help the NAO community (what if dozens of people join and use the feature for their private chats and stuff... I think we'd at least need some restrictions here!),

• ...this is the appropriate solution to an actually existing demand, and last but not least

• ...the implementation wouldn't cause Jaz several sleepless nights until it works without breaking 1000 other things!

"*sigh* Some men are really hard to manipulate!" - Orchid

This post was edited by null on Jan 29, 2004.

the ability to mark journal entries as "private", so that only your friends (as defined in your NAO friends list) can read the corresponding thread.

Null, this is one hell of an idea! I really like it because in this way me and only me decides who can read my journal. On the other hand I just want it to protect it against outsiders. The problem then would be to put all the people on NAO I know or I think are reliable, into my settings which would be quite a lot.
Anyway neither you nor I or anybody else wants to provide Jaz with loads of programming work so I just finish with stating that it is a good idea I didn't think of.

Anyway, now I know better and in the future I'll think twice before being too emotional.

Well what we write is what we think at one time. It will stand there forever (in Internet time) whilst we might or probably will have changed our mind many times and maybe can't identify with what we wrote anymore. But still it was one thought of us we can't deny. Recently I read some old IRR journals of mine and still couldn't throw them away. It's a lot of teenie crap, but it's me. And some things never change.
Coming back to the NAO journals, I'm fatalistic: Why deny or delete something I wrote weeks ago. It was me in a moment, in an extraordinary situation maybe, not me in general, but still me. Do I have to be ashamed or care what others think? I can only say that I already care far too much in my life about the idea others have about me (in german: Fremdbild)... Writing the NAO journal so personal and emotional has always been an act on impulse. Hmm... I'm just totally thankful about what you NAOees commented on it. It's a great feeling when people care :)

@Frank: I never ever had the idea that you might be weird. Just keep on writing... like me. Cause I'm a creeeep, I'm a weirdoooo.... ;)

"Sie wollen nichts anderes. Sie wollen kämpfen! Sie sind Soldaten! Fucking Wahnsinnige!" - Noel G.

Orchid if it means anything I don't dare tell my personal friends of NAO either. I suppose I am afraid like you that they will think I'm weird. It's a paradox. I want to share these feelings but I cannot bare the thoughts of my friends thinking I am some kind of weird person or something.