Reading hells_angel's journal

The other day when I was watching my niece we were in my mom's room. We were watching spongebob squarepants. I was laying on the bed. My niece started mimicing Britney Spears.

I think I should write Britney Spears a letter and tell her to check and see who her audience is. I don't appreciate the fact that my niece is picking up stuff that she does off of t.v.

I was talking to Heather last night. We were talking about how kids today seem like they have to grow up a lot faster than what they are suposed to. You see kids in designer clothes and dressing older than what they are.

I remember when I was a kid I used to wear the cute dresses with the flower prints on them or pants with flowers on them. I even used to wear jeans and cute kid shirts.

But lately when you walk around town and you see little kids they are wearing gap shirts and tommy jeans or girls wearing skirts and halter tops. I'm sorry but I think there is something wrong with this.

I went to my Aunts house for Easter and my cousin, I kid you know looked like she was 14 and she is only 11. She was wearing a pair of low rise jeans and a green tshirt. She had her hair straightend and cut, the way she got her hair cut made her look older.

I have an odd feeling that by the time my cousin is 14 she is going to be dressing like she is older and she is going to act it. If she doesn't watch herself she will end up pregnant. My cousin is already into guys. I wasn't interested in guys until I was 15. I didn't date until I was almost 16.

Take your time don't live to fast troubles will come and they will pass

This post was edited by Jaz on Apr 18, 2004.

I remember when parents taught their kids, not television. I remember when parents picked out their kids' clothes, not the kids.

I remember when parents were parents and not babysitters that get tax breaks.

"What you don't understand you can make mean anything." - Misty Wilmot

What we are witnessing is the result of technology without wisdom...on many levels.

Children are pushed into adult hood before they have a chance to be children.
Teenagers are expected to act like adults when they should still be alowed to be children.
Adults are frustrated, bitter, anxious, impatient, and teaching their children to be the same.

And people wonder where the kids are learning how to be so antisocial in what they do...they are learning by example.

Children before the age of 5 learn more than they do at any other time in their lives.
Parents are the first teachers. Then they are passed off into the school system.
The age for that to happen is getting younger and younger as time goes on.
What the children learn they do.
So who really is to blame, for all of what we see?

It only looks that way because your standing on your head.

My question is simple but it has a complicated answer. What is going to happen by the time I have kids? If kids now are growing up so fast and kids are having sex now what's it going to be like when I'm 25 or 30?

It's going to be hard work to teach kids to be kids and not to concern themselves with trying to look cool and act older than what they are.

I see it now... This past weekend I went back to my old neighborhood to visit a few friends and well all my friends in my old neighborhood are a lot younger than me...I'm 21 and my one friend is 14. And she was telling me about how her boyfriend doesn't know how to put on a condom. And I didn't know how to react so I just kinda laughed and asked her if he ever tried putting a condom on a banana before. But that was after I asked her the bigger question...did she sleep with him.

I'm 21 and still a virgin and I am honestly glad I am. It just scares me a lil bit knowing that when I was 14 I wasn't into guys like that and I didn't even think about sex. I honestly never thought about sex well until I was 15...my first boyfriend wanted to rush things and I found myself thinking of things I never thought of before. He got mad when I said no and basically we broke up. But I never thought about sex seriously until I was 17. Maybe it's just me.

Take your time don't live to fast troubles will come and they will pass

He got mad when I said no and basically we broke up. But I never thought about sex seriously until I was 17. Maybe it's just me.

No, it's not just you. I think that serious persons, guys or girls independently, will have sex only if the thing is based on serious reasons. Of course I can understand that this can happen when you're 17, just like when you're 20 or 21 or 25. I wasn't like that either when I was 14. I never seriously considered sex until I was about 16 or so. At that point I considered it as something to do with the one I loved, because of how special it is and how wonderful it can be if done with the right person and how horrid it can be at the same time if done with a real jerk.

When I was 17, I got together with a guy my parents didn't like. In the end we broke up, and the only "good" thing he could say was "at least have sex with me, so that you know what I am like and what you'll miss". He was 24 back then, and as immature as a little teenager could be. We still talk to each other through e-mail now, and he grew up of course. He even has a family, and I wish him all the best. I just knew it wasn't right, and I didn't want to do it with him. So, hells_angel, you did the right thing in saying no to that kid when you were so young.

My first time... well this information is almost public domain now, and it doesn't bother me to repeat it here. Well I did it for the first time with Neil, my fiance, when I was 19. We were both virgin, and it was really the best thing that has ever happened to me. I mean, when you love someone, making love is just the best thing that can happen to you, because so much love, so many feelings are in that act.

Before Neil I never felt like fooling around and get laid by someon, and when I met him... well I don't know how, but I didn't feel like waiting. Of course we were both knowing the risks, and were ready to take the responsibilities for our actions. This is something that you just cannot do when you're 14 or 15. Having sex at that age is just something crazy.

What I feel like telling you, hells_angel, is that you should be proud of your choice. You should be proud of not having given yourself yet, because you probably haven't found anybody who deserves it, and it would be a tragic mistake to lose the most precious thing you have to a stupid asshole who cannot give a fuck about you, but is just looking for someone to lay. And when you'll meet that special someone... well then everything will be great and wonderful.

I am 22 now, and already thinking about marriage, family, kids and all that jazz, but of course I too am worried about this future. I mean, very often lately I find myself wondering where this society is going to go. We are becoming less and less morally involved with each other: I witnessed a lot of relationships born just for sex, and I find this really horrid and disgusting, and even insane. I too am worried about what my kids will be doing, and am worried about whether or not I will be able to raise them in the good way, so that they don't commit the mistakes that I have made and those which I didn't make. I wish they would take after me and Neil as far as such things are concerned.

I remember during high school those idiotic girls teasing me because I hadn't had sex yet, while they had this aura of being "bitches" who were jumping from one bed to another. I never felt embarrassed or pissed or anything. Actually, I was sort of happy for them when they professed eternal love to the guy they had just screwed. Why? Because I was stupid, and actually thought that there was love. But the truth is that there wasn't. They used to be together for a month, say that they loved each other, have sex, break up, and this insane cycle would repeat over and over again. I am glad I wasn't one of those girls. And I pray I will be able to teach my kids the same moral values I have.

All I can say is that you're not alone, you're not the only one. Here on Nao there is at least another person who can tell you the same thing, and I hope that she will participate to the discussion, if she has a little spare time.
But now, I do think that it would be nice to also listen to some male voice here. Nao is full of good guys, who have wonderful moral values, so guys step forward, and tell us what you think.

Un bacio è un'apostrofo rosa scritto tra le parole "ti amo".

I am in a relationship now and I consider myself lucky because he will wait for me. I never thought I'd actually meet someone who is willing to wait.

I think when we were in high school and you know all the couples that were together for a month thought it was love because a month to us back then felt like eternity, but to look back on it now it makes me realize that some of these girls didn't show good judgment and some of the guys were immature. What is to be expected at that age though?

I used to hear my friends talk about sex like it was no big deal and they would go as far as to tell me not only who they did it with but how they did it. I never resented myself for joining the crowd I always was an outsider in high school anyways. I just knew that whoever I lost my virginity to is going to have to work for it meaning he is going to have to earn my trust because anymore if you sleep with someone who isn't a virgin you are trusting them with your life. I know my man isn't a virgin I didn't expect him to be but he can count on one hand how man people he slept with. We started out as friends and for me I still act like we are friends because nothing in our relationship has really changed.

I know a little over a month from now my cousin will be at my grandpa's and she will want me to tell her what I know about sex, she won't ask about love, just sex. She's done it before, and I just look at her and think you are only 12, thick of something other than boys and sex. If it's like this now I can only imagine how its going to be when I have kids, if I have kids. And that thought alone scares me. But I know I have said that before.

Take your time don't live to fast troubles will come and they will pass

I'm 21 and still a virgin and I am honestly glad I am

Well I was 20 when I lost my virginity. It was with my wife and so I've only ever had sex with one person so I count my blessings. It's better to wait if you have the self control. Trust me. I had my first child when I was 27 so I consider myself extremely lucky in the fact that I was able to wait. My child did not come as a serious surprise because I was married for over 6 years at that point. Things are extremely well for me and I have been extremely lucky. I've been married almost 10 years and my daughter is only 3 years old. I count my lucky stars. I am 30 now and I am much more mature than I was in my 20's and I can handle a child.

If you can wait, WAIT! Life will be much easier, trust me!

Right now in my life nothing is going on. I am trying to get out of the small town I live in and move in with my friend who is actually my boyfriend, my mom doesn't know that he is. Lately when it comes to my mom I tell her what she needs to know and nothing else. I just don't want to hear her preach about this and that. I wish she would understand I am not trying to get laid and that I am doing this so I can make something of my life.

I am not trying to repeat the same mistakes that some of my friends made, getting pregnant before they even had a chace to have a life.

I should tell my cousin that much at least, just so I know she will start thinking about what I tell her. I found out last night that she is coming home this weekend.

I am going to have to tell my cousin that there is alot more to life than sex and hope that it doesn't sound to cornny or phoney to me.

Maybe I should just tell her what my friend told me, birth control isn't 100% effective the only way to garentee that you wont get pregnant or get an std or anything like that is don't have sex until you are ready.

But of course the question she will ask will be how will I know. That is the only one I won't be able to answer.

Take your time don't live to fast troubles will come and they will pass