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May 13, 2004 22:03 # 22359
This is what I dont understand. girls at my school who have a new boyfriend every week and have "I luv ______ SOOOOO MUCH!!!~~~~~" written on their hands and on their notebooks. people who think that relationships that last 2 weeks during high school will kill them. people who are afraid of committment, or just play around with every person of the opposite sex they can get their gubby little hands on. that is what I dont understand. I am yet to be in a serious relationship, which means Ive never really been in any kind of relationship with a guy that is beyond friendship, because I dont like playing around with people and just giving myself away to everyone there is. I havent even been kissed. I mean, comeon now. Im not going to have my first kiss be with some idiot at my school who thinks hes pimpin because hes had 15 girlfriends this year. NO thats just wrong. you either stay with one person for as long as it will possibly work out, or its not worth it at all. im not a person who has a lot of free time, and if Im ever in a relationship with a guy, then my free time is going to be "us" time. not "omg im stuck this fuckin far up my boyfriends ass" time. I am an individual and I refuse to degrade myself in such a manner as to let multiple people just "go out" with me. I am looking for a serious relationship, but Im a bit confused.
when do you know that youre in "love"? when do you know its not just another useless petty relationship? when do you know that this is the person that is right for you, and that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, and youd be crushed if they didnt feel the same way? when do you KNOW that this person is the one for you?
Ive had a few crushes in the past, but nothing serious. it was usually, "yeah, hes nice." or "sure, hes pretty good looking." but I recently met a guy who is the greatest person ive ever met in my entire life. hes nice, sweet, loving, a virgin, doesnt drink or do drugs, loves kids, I mean, he fits every characteristic ive always visualized to be the perfect guy.
now, you may be thinking, "what the hell is wrong with her? why doesnt she just marry the guy and get it over with?"
well. im 15 years old for one. and he lives across the state. and were not really in a relationship. we both have feelings for each other, but we decided not to take it too far due to the distance. and that crushed me.
Ive put a lot of thought into this subject, and I dont know if any of this is going to matter 4, 5, 10 years from now. in fact, it might not matter next year. it might not matter next month. but all these feelings are overwhelming me and I dont know what to think anymore. so im asking for advice. am I in "love"? or is this just an infatuation that I shall get over in a few monthes?
"Wishing on a star that's already burned out..."
This post was edited by Articulate_AzN on May 13, 2004.
Jun 15, 2004 18:35 # 23357
you either stay with one person for as long as it will possibly work out, or its not worth it at all.
Auctually, in high school it is nice to experiment in the dating serious before graduation when it becomes more serious. Even short relationships help you understand people of the opposite sex better.
when do you know that youre in "love"? when do you know its not just another useless petty relationship?
When you CAN NOT stop thinking about that person! Ever!
I recently met a guy who is the greatest person ive ever met in my entire life. hes nice, sweet, loving, a virgin, doesnt drink or do drugs, loves kids, I mean, he fits every characteristic ive always visualized to be the perfect guy.
Hmm, well that's nice and all..but when you are in love you tend to concentrate on simply how happy he/she makes you and concentrate less on his characteristics. When you fall in love it may even be difficult to figure out what characteristics of his made you fall in love with him. This is because none of them should have---it happens very naturally.
I dont know if any of this is going to matter 4, 5, 10 years from now. in fact, it might not matter next year. it might not matter next month.
That is very true. Crushes and loves come and go, and their is nothing you should woory about as long as you try to learn from every one of your experiences and know that the person you love now does not have to be with you for the rest of your life for you to be happy. Good luck!