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I have an ongoing issue with a friend of mine. Actually she is the wife of a good friend of mine. He and I share a brotherly kind of bond. Her and I became closer through my buddy. I remember hanging out with him before the both of them were even married. I was there with him when she gave him "problems". Don't get me wrong, I enjoy her friendship. Yet, there are times when she can be somewhat testing. Let me explain our growing up situations, and then that will bring me to my issue with her.
We will call her Jane. Jane and I grew up in similar situations as children. I grow up with a father that was physically and more so emotionally abusive. Jane grow up with an alcoholic father and a mother that peddled drugs. In my humble opinion, God blessed me with a wonderful mother straight from the heavens above. My mother struggled financially throughout my childhood. My father started a new family and it seemed easier for him to lay me by the waste side. At one time, my mother worked three jobs to support me. Jane and I both came from divorced parents, and we both lived with our mothers. Jane and I stopped seeing our fathers at a young age. We both came from a financially lower class home, and we grew up rough around the edges. Nothing came easy for either one of us.
When Jane was in her early teens, she moved out and lived with her loving grandparents. When I was in my early teens, I spent the majority of my youth in juvenile or boys school institutions.
When I turned eighteen, I moved out. I started working and lived in a small one bedroom apartment. I found a pride in independence. Jane starting stripping at one of the best, high class highly known strip clubs. I cannot remember the name something Hard Bodies. As we matured, both of our parents started to find their own financial success. Jane developed a relationship with her father. Soon, I started selling cars at a dealership. As a result, I began making more money than I ever made before. Jane also was involved with more money than she was accustom to making.
Jane went through a few damaging idiotic relationships, before she met my buddy. Let me say this for the record, we will call him Jack. Jack is one of the best individuals I have ever met. She is lucky in finding someone like him.
Jack came from some wealth later on in his childhood. However his father instilled values of earning his own keep. Jack wasn't given everything. He developed responsibility. His family owns the dealership I am employed through. However he isn't a big spender. Jack is more frugal with his earnings. Sometimes he is teased by Jane for his tight money mentality.
Now, I will share my main issue I hold towards Jane. Jane and I came from the same type of backgrounds, yet with money we are completely different. She throws money away. I try and watch myself. Sometimes I get a little out of control, but for the most part I watch myself. Jane has a tendency in acting better than most financially. I will speak for myself: The way she acts, results in me feeling less worthy because I don't spend money like she does. She seems to size up others financially and tends to try and outdo them as much as possible.
We are all flying out to Mexico tomorrow. Our resort is all inclusive, so I do not see the need in bringing too much money with me. Plus at this time, much of my earning are already pre-spent on my lifestyle. All the food and drinks are covered, why bring a butt load of money? Well Jane doesn't share the same sentiment, and she definitely made sure I knew about it.
In essence, I am just tired of being put in the spotlight about Dead Presidents. She would be financially lost if Jack wasn't married to her. Her lifestyle would cease to exist. She feels that she is better because she spends money on dumb expensive things. I on the other hand have a house payment, car note, utilities, insurance, and all the other expenses that come with independency. I cover them all by myself. There have been a few times where my mother has helped me out, but for the most part I handle everything. I am not married, nor do I have a roommate, so I am my own sole provider.
Much of Jack and Jane’s arguments stem from his "lack" of spending, or her willingness to throw money away on anything.
I am basically irritated by her indifference.

As history shows us, it has always been Aces over Kings

This post was edited by havananights on Oct 20, 2004.