Reading NiQuE's journal

My sister seems happy in her new relationship, but I just can't help but feel hopelessly awkward about her current boyfriend.

You have to understand my sister: She is a beautiful blonde, who is intelligent, educated, funny, and kind, but seems to be completely clueless...

She has been dating this guy for the past 2 or 3 months. He is almost the exact opposite. Homely, awkward, slightly overweight with a very noticable double chin... Smokes weed on a regular basis (and you can tell), and is a foreman for an oilfield company... He is what we call here in Alberta, a rig pig. Someone who has no choice (if they want to make decent money) but to become a laborer in the oil industry because they're too intellectually challenged to do anything else.

I don't want to come across as vain. This guy is a sweet guy, he really is, but that is the extent of it... I just can't see the two of them lasting in a long-term relationship. They are one of the oddest couples I have seen in a very long time... If anyone wants to use the argument that opposites attract, you're wasting your time because I don't fucking care.

My sister has just returned to the city to live with me again after working in a small town for the summer. This town is the town that her boyfriend resides in. So after a few months of spending all of their time together, they are finally apart for a few days until they leave for their vacation to Vancouver on Saturday. They have spent a total of one day apart and in that time have had over 6 telephone conversations, all of which were initiated by her boyfriend. This worries me abit, I mean... It's one thing to want to keep in touch, but it is another thing to call someone that many times in one day. It almost makes me think that he might come to a point where he misses her so much that he might become obsessive, or he might want to keep tabs on her because he knows that there is a rather large possibility that there will be "other alternatives" lingering about... Especially when she returns to university in the fall and he is 2 hours away.

I mean really, it is blatantly obvious that he is completely clueless as to why my sister actually chose him over anyone else. He is just as clueless as she seems to be (but in a different way), and as clueless as anyone close to her is. We are all disturbingly shocked beyond any comprehension.

He has also brought to my sisters attention the fact that he realizes he is lower on the scale and has expressed his sincere uneasiness towards her possible reactions to other men, ahem, to put it gently... Men who would be more of my sisters type.

I just hope that this doesn't become something that could possibly turn violent, or bad in other ways in the future. I really don't think that she knows what she is getting into... I think that this guy will turn out to be nothing more than a rebound. The scary thing is, he thinks that it is more than that, and it will hurt him a hell of a lot more than she bargained for when she realizes that he has very, very, few qualities that she is looking for.

God... It's this is hard to write this. I know that I might be coming across negatively to some people, and I really don't mean to... And trust me, I know that "looks aren't everything", I've heard it a million times. But this is more than just looks, he just isn't right for her. I know this because I know her.

I am glad that my sister is happy, but hey... Honeymoon phases don't last forever, and eventually she will see what everyone else sees... But I would hate to see this guy turn into a raging lunatic because the best girl that he will ever have (and already loves) could eventually (and probably will) leave him.

Of all the things that I have lost in my life, it's my mind that I miss the most.

This post was edited by NiQuE on Aug 18, 2005.