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Being able to feel other people's emotions is a great tool in being able to give them ideas on how to change things that may be stopping them or hurting them or anything else that can and often does lead to problems.

I'm facing one now, that I never thought I would have to deal with.
It never crossed my mind.
But here's the problem: I need to find ways to block someone elses energy from touching me and draining me.
I don't know what to do.
It's affecting my life in negative ways.
I've tried talking to the person and it hasn't proven sucessful, and now I'm just hiding out from this person trying to get as much space between us as possible so that I can at least stay in a balanced place.

so if there is anyone out there with some practical suggestions that possibly will be a soultion, I would be most greatful for the help.

It only looks that way because your standing on your head.

Oh boy i can certainly relate. I found that taking ample time to myself so that I could extablish my sense of self was really important. When you're around someone so draining, they can take away who you are until you become a drainied, barren, depressed projection of them.

I meditated and wrote a lot. i tried to avoid thinking about them and being around them as much as possible, but as it seems you're recognising at the moment, this often just isn't enough. As terrible as it may seem, the only way that truly helped was when i finally went ape shit and opened up the hostility. When your dealing with each other on a hostile, angry level, you can control your emotions. And also, if they hate you they're less likely to follow you around, draining you. Anyone that drining cannot be spoken to on a reasonable, rational level. they're overcome with emotion, so that's the only level you can reach them on. show them your emotion. show them so strongly they cannot deny it.

And then if you want to resume any form of relationship after a while, it's on your terms.

I guess this isn't that helpful, but in the end it was the only way that worked for me.

I hope you find a way that works for you.

-Mel

Look at me! I'm a prostitute robot from the future!

You are right about what happens when someone is that draining.

I finally did blow up at this guy. He still doesn't get it.
At the present I'm basicly ignorning him.
He keeps asking stupid questions, and I'll reply what does it look like I'm doing?

Then he comes up with this, if I knew I wouldn't ask.

He doesn't know, and I don't care.

I'm having to be cold and rude, hopefull that will make him really uncomfortable. I can only hope.
It's not the way I like being, but this has come down to self preservation.

Actually he's very intellegent, but wants someone to do what ever for him.
And me being me have taken it as anytime he feels he wants somthing, has made it clear that I'm not available.
He tried telling me to drive into town a couple of times to get him somthing, I just said I don't think so.

This guy can't figure out why his wife kicked him out of the house, and on his way out told him to grow up.
After this last month I could tell him, but he wouldn't get it.
He'd just look bewildered and mumble something like "I'm not like that"

I've begun to make it impossible for him to go into the conversation thing with me.
I indulged him at first, but he's like this leech that won't go away.

Now, being deprived of the things that he really gets into, the t.v. and someone to talk the ears off of with shit I don't care about or want or need to hear, we'll see how long it is before he leaves.
It's going to be a great show.

It only looks that way because your standing on your head.