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I am not sure if my other post went through...I have dated a guy for 3 yrs.He is 35 yrs old ,divorced w/child. I am 26 yrs old. At first he was always caring for me like if I was the best thing that ever happened to him. Now he is selfish only worries about himself. I feel like he doesn't care about me but i do not know if it is just me or if this is a fact. We argue on & off. we break up & get back together as if we were still in highschool. We always make back up within a couple of hours though. I am very confused. On 4/15/06 we spent the day together & got into a pretty heated arguement. He told me he no longer wanted to see me. On Easter he decided that he was going to show me & spent the day with his friends & called me around 8pm as if I deserved what he did. Then on 4/17/06 he calls & tells me that he will be waiting for me at his house. I felt disgusted because it was like jeez ya know one day he wants me the next he doesn't so I respected myself enough to not go over. He always tells me he loves me & that he doesn'e understand why I get upset. He sometimes acts like he cares other times like he doesn't I do NOT know what to do. Some guys I have talked to said to back off that he takes me for granted & to give him some room to miss me that I might lose him but if he really cares & loves he should try to work things out with me. I have tried so hard not to be a problem. I do nag sometimes about the time he spends with me but I am not sure what I should do if I should walk away & let him come to me. At this point I have not seen him since Sat. I don't feel loved anymore.

This post was edited by gab455 on Apr 18, 2006.

Listen to the guys who tell you to dump him. If he loves you he oughta act accordingly.

Consider yourself hugged.

This kinda reminds me of my own situation. I can't give advice on it because I need it myself but I've learned that the only thing you can do is respect yourself. If you run to him whenever he feels the need to see you, he'll think he'll have you wrapped around his fingers.

miss.sassyxxx

I think if your partner respects you, you can be as selfless as you want, never caring about yourself and letting your partner do it for you. However, when your partner doesn't return your respect, you have to watch after yourself. If you're mistreated, don't be so quick to forgive.

You need to watch after yourself, I think. It's easier to forgive, but you're only hurting yourself later.

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