Reading Love and Lifesense

A couple of years ago I fell in love with a co-worker. What is ironic, was that we both thought each other had happy marriages, which ended up not being the case. This was each others first affairs. We fell deeply in love with each other and then one day her husband found an email she had sent me. She confessed to loving me and they decided to seek professional help. My wife and I did the same, without my wife finding out about the other woman. Like I said, it has been a couple of years, we both try to make our marriages work but we have since kissed and held hands and are still very much in love. Recently, she has said she is trying to make her marriage work and refuses to think about our future together. It is the only way she will know if her marriage will work. I have already decided that if she leaves him, I will leave my wife and kids to be with her and her kids, that's how much I love her. Am I nuts? Is there anyone out there that has actually seen any good come from this? And if not, how do I get over her? I truly believe that an angel meant us to be together, that's how strong the love is!!!

This is quite interesting... Let me ask you this, was your marriage crumbling when you met her, and if not has it remained the same ?

I'm not a big believer in the "happily married" fairytale, so if she comes back, give it all up and live your life !

-Happily married man

Love is a selfless thing, you know. You don't appear to be the selfless type. Leaving your children and your wife for a pretty little co-worker who has marital issues herself? That's not love.

I'm not so egotistical as to say that I know what love is, nor should I be judging you, but I certainly know what love ISN'T. Love isn't leaving your babies (your children, creatures that are half YOU who need a father) because you're in "love". You're infatuated. "She's" something new, something dangerous, something unusual, something... utterly senseless.

I think love is accepting pure knowledge of another person and wanting the best for that person. If you truly loved this co-worker of yours, you'd want what is best for her. Do you? Do you even know what might be best for her? Have you thought about it?

If she's unhappy, that has nothing to do with you and you can't make her happy. She appears to be vulnerable, and you appear to be preying on that vulnerability.

Be a man. You're a husband and a father. You made a lifetime commitment. You lifted that responsibility onto your own shoulders willingly. Whose freckles have you counted? Whose runny noses and fevers have you nursed? Whose cheeks have you kissed up and down, day and night? Who has worked to take care of you?

Your co-worker, or your wife and your children?

Who do you know better?
The people you know most and accept are the people you love most.

Get away from her, end of story. No good will come of this.

For my next trick, I shall make you all disappear.