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This post was edited by blacksky on May 02, 2007.

I am really sorry to hear such words from you, blacksky. I wish there was something that I could say to make it better, but unfortunately words cannot help your situation. What I wonder, is if you and your wife get to talk to each other; I don't mean chit chat, but real talks. About important things.

Does she feel the same as you do? Or is it just you who is suffering this marriage? Is there a way you can improve your communication, and therefore maybe improve through dialogue also your relationship? I am only throwing ideas off here. I mean, considering how unsatisfied you seem to be from the words you posted, I can't help but think that also your wife might feel the same tension, and the same problems. Normally problems are generated by two people at the same time, and not only by one. Same logic that tells you that in order to make a fight, you need two people.

The fact that you say that things have changed totally about your life... well that is kind of obvious afterall, don't you think? I mean, it's obvious that now you can't really do exactly the same things you were doing when you were single; you definitely could not expect to go on with your single life even through your marriage. However, it would be fair for you to have your spaces. Maybe even only this could improve the situation a little bit.

Considering the seriousness of your words though, I would say that what you really need to do now is talking to your wife. Even if this could lead to a fight. But you seriously need to tell her how you feel, and find out whether she feels the same way or not (unless you already know, in which case it would be of no help). I believe that talking is the key to any relationship; when communication lacks, relationship will suffer.

Before considering divorce, I think you should talk to your wife about what you feel like is a problem between you two, and try to see also her point of view. I know I already expressed myself about this "horrible" woman who treats you unfairly and so forth before, and I know that it seems like you two don't have much in common. But think that she's the one you married, and, unless you were totally high, you loved her so much to ask her to marry you at a certain point of your life. You should not keep such doubts about your relationship for yourself; that would also be a lack of respect towards her. Try to talk to her, and see if you both can help the relationship to achieve an improvement, or always with her decide what to do next.

Un bacio è un'apostrofo rosa scritto tra le parole "ti amo".