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Apr 07, 2009 02:46 # 46337

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Contemplating Monogamy

I wonder something. I wonder if, if we work together, we can always fight off the lethargy that we both fall into sometimes. I wonder if we can push each other to reach our full potential; if we can help to really set each other in motion. For as much as we control our own destiny, we respond also to those around us. Can we pull each other out of the traps that we fall into, and keep each other free to discover the beautiful things life has to offer? For we both understand that it's the moments of passion, elation, beauty and creation that make this life worth living. And we both get dampened by the negative side of our imagination and by the dull necessities of unwanted motions. And thus I wonder: can we keep each others' souls alight?

Or am I just living in a naive dream right now, doomed to someday wake up?

That's a BINGO!

Apr 07, 2009 13:42 # 46338

harold_maude *** replies...

Re: Contemplating Monogamy

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I don't know if what I have to say isn't something you've already pondered or know, so if I'm offering thoughts that are repeative, please forgive me.

Keeping anothers' soul alright isn't up to us. We can be an anchor for them, and help them or they us, if it's the choice of that person.

It would be wonderful to be able to do that. Be the saving grace for another person every time they started falling down into some kind of less than.
The less than can be anything, what they are in our comfort zone, less then what we see as their true nature, less that what we believed they would, could, should be in relation to our lives.
When it comes down to it, it's up to them to want their full potential in any sense of the word.

Unless your a mindreader and can hear their thoughts, and experience the true intent of their words, your left with your view of things.
In order for what you want to happen, as in being able to be that saving grace for each other, you have to be able to talk to the other person, like you would with a best friend.
A best friend you can tell or say anything to and it won't change how they feel about you.

I don't know if any of this will help. I've been in a couple of long term relationships in my life, and my experiences have taught me the above and also this, that sometimes the person we believed we would grow together for life with really in truth, isn't on the same page as we are when it comes to what your talking about.

Discovering that isn't easy. And loving someone doesn't change the reality of it. The love you have for them is the love you have for them.
What I would suggest is talking to the person your with about how your feeling.
They may be feeling the same things. If they are that's wonderful because it means that you can work together and find the answers that will help.
If you find your the only one feeling like this, then maybe it might be time to do some soul searching, or something to that effect.

Just a few thoughts. Hope they help.

Sep 28, 2009 19:47 # 46552

Bunk *** replies...

Re: Contemplating Monogamy

I never did thank you for this response. It gave me some good counterpoints to the notions I had - it definitely helps to be engaged by another perspective.

That's a BINGO!

Sep 28, 2009 23:13 # 46556

harold_maude *** replies...

Re: Contemplating Monogamy

I'm glad it was of help. Oh other perspectives than our own are wonderful. They help to see a bigger broader picture.
Sometimes our landscape can become very limited.

By the way how are thing going? In reading your inital post it made me wonder if you were still in the same relationship.


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