Reading Love and Lifesense

But I don't want to meet those prejudices. I don't want people to think that about me. And I definitly doesn't want to hear it! Don't you think I get hurt by that? Even if it's someone hiding behind a "I'm funny-mask".

And yes, I've been called things like that.

carpe diem.

Why do you feel hurt?

"Sie wollen nichts anderes. Sie wollen kämpfen! Sie sind Soldaten! Fucking Wahnsinnige!" - Noel G.

Why do you feel hurt?

Because I've met to much criticism in my life. You tend to get easily hurt if you've been hurt to much.

carpe diem.

Ivy, you are WAY to worried about what people think about you. You cannot and will never control people thoughts, prejudices, morals...you just need to live and accept that.

You want to dress differently, then dress diffrently. But dont complain about people not accepting you. Its a fact of life. You look different from the norm, there WILL be critisms.

It sounds as though you want to be accepted by everyone else. If thats the case, then you better start buying more blue jeans and white shirts....or at least just tough it out untill your own style becomes mainsteam, because let me tell you, its definetly on its way.

You need to set your prioritys strait. Whats more important to you. You clothes and indivuduality, or people accepting you and saying nice things about you.

If you were comfortable with your life style, it wouldnt really matter how other people feel about you, now would it?

We should of brought a bag of rocks....

I guess Orchid's got a point there.
Granted, it certainly sucks being called a satanist ect.
But OTOH, you don't want superficial people that judge you by your looks alone as your friends, do you?
From that point of view, it's a win-win scenario... :)

That makes me a sa-a-a-a-a-ad Panda...

No I don't want them for friends but I want them to at least respect me.

carpe diem.

No I don't want them for friends but I want them to at least respect me.

That's the way it should be.
But I'm afraid, in the real world there will always be some people not respecting you because of what you look like.
This might might sound hard, but: get used to it!
Sadly, you just can't please everybody...

That makes me a sa-a-a-a-a-ad Panda...

Be yourself...people will keep on yelling this at you again and again but it's true!

it used to annoy me so much, and then i realised they were right and it annoyed me even more!

if you are happy with the way you look, then you will build up confidence.

if you aren't happy, then ask youself why. is it due to your beliefs and principals or is it due to constant pressure to conform? if you feel that you can't keep up with "everyone else" then how is that your fault, find something you like and stick to it. don't feel you have be the same as everyone else.

it is also important not to try and feel different to everyone else though. even if you absolutly hate them, you will have something in common.

i know you will probably all read this and think what is she on and rate me badly, but this is what i believe.

people are afraid of what is different, it's not your fault, it's human nature. just because you look a certain way, it doesn't mean that you are automatically a goth, or a satanist.

poeple will have immediate insticts, and blurt out the closest stereotype they can think of but it doesn't necessarily mean it's true.

i always judge on appearances, i can't help it, what i do try to do is not let those judgements form an opinion on the person, if that makes any sense!

people don't always say what they mean, in fact we rarely do, i'm sure people realise what a good person you are. if they don't, make them seee that there is more to you than black and noserings. personally, i love black, and am desperate to get a nosestud, but hey. i may be slightly biased. but still, i think you sound like a nice person, and that you shouldn't give up yet. don't give up and let people get away with saying stuff, make them see they're wrong!!

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