Reading POWF's journal

I dislike negative people. You can be negative sometimes, but I can't stand the type of person that EVERYTHING is so horrible, and EVERYTHING is such drama.

"I don't want to be at work", "I hate Monday's", "I dont want to answer the phones", I hate this, I hate that. Shut the hell up!

The secretary at work is like this. Every morning when I walk in I am greated with a frown and a complaint. It drives me insane! I say something positive, she negates it. Shes also the type of person that "knows everything".

"I have a bachelors in earth science, I know EVERYTHING about EVERYTHING"....Ok, then what are you doing working as a secretary in an insurance agency?

All this woman (shes 25) does is complain and complain...about anything you bring up in a converstation. She also thinks shes a "witch". Shes wears a pentagram to work and acts like shes all cool and mysterious. She tells the bosses, her co-workers and just about anyone who will listen that she is "white witch" and shes going to Salem this weekend.

Oh yea, did I mention that she can control the weather with her powers? If you so goddamn powerful, why dont you do a spell to make you life better, so you stop complaning. God, next thing I know she'll be complaining about why the sky is blue...then she will give a detailed explanation why it is blue (because she has a bachelors in earth science), like I care.

Luckily shes been getting laid latly (kinda sad that getting some is the basis to ones happiness, but i'll disregard that) so shes been kinda happy. The complaining is down to a minimun, she only complains about work related things now.

I stil hope she quits though, or my managers get freaked out that shes a "white witch" (cause you know, wiccans/pagans go around preaching their abilities to control wind) and they fire her...

Ok, I'm done venting, I better post this before she walks by and sees it :)

We should of brought a bag of rocks....

So... you're being negative about being negative? ; )

Haha, I geuss I am being kinda negative about negativity...but only to a certian extent...its not the kind of negativity described above, its more like fustration negativity...if that makes any sence at all.... :)

We should of brought a bag of rocks....

This post was edited by POWF on Apr 01, 2003.

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"you're mighty brave in cyber-space, flame boy!"

Im negatice, andi think i can say that generally negative people hate being negative as well.

Do you know how much i wish i could hope and dream?

But we cant...Its not like we're enjoying ourselves

-mel

Look at me! I'm a prostitute robot from the future!

So why don't they do something about it. If you are able to identify you are negative, then fix it. Unless you are a weak person, you should'nt really have a problem.

Think of it this way...Life could always be worse. And even if you are negative, does that give you the right to impose your negative thoughts onto other people?

I dont care if you negative or not, but don't go ruining my day with your complaining and what not, keep it to yourself...unless of course your asking my advice, which would be a whole different story

We should of brought a bag of rocks....

Do you want them all to be on antidepressants so they can be more positive? I totally understand what you mean, a good friend of mine started getting that way and i just wanted to pull my hair out, but still i agree with mel that some people cant help it that theyre unhappy, its a vicious cycle i guess ... But i dont know why they have to rain on everyone elses parades all the time

I dont care if you negative or not, but don't go ruining my day with your complaining and what not, keep it to yourself...unless of course your asking my advice, which would be a whole different story

i think thats fair enough. just because you have a thought, doesn't make you RIGHT

-mel

Look at me! I'm a prostitute robot from the future!

I found this post searching the Internet for "negative people." I am wondering what makes some people always focus on the negative when we all have 100 percent choice on what we focus on. Why would I _choose_ to focus on negative things more often than not? What is the advantage that negative people perceive they achieve by being negative?

Anyway, the reason I started looking was that I, too, have a coworker who I felt was "bothersome"--but I couldn't pinpoint exactly why. Finally she came in one day and the first thing out of her mouth was a very negative comment about something or other in her life. I thought, "Man, do you have to start up first thing in the morning?" Then the next day, the very same thing happened. And the following day. I now believe she begins each morning with a "Negative thought for the day" that she shares with everyone.

Like you, I realize we all have down days--I'm not seeking happy puppets; but this is something altogether different. I realize that I could follow anyone around (even myself) and record negative comments they make during the day; however, this young woman comes out with such things, really, right after saying "Good Morning" to everyone. She dispenses with niceties, then begins her negative message.

Well, since I found this trend, I am much less bothered by her--because I now realize _why_ I'm bothered. So I've started my own morning ritual (call me obsessive). I now have a small Simple Text document where I record her morning negative thought each day. I plan to do this for a year and then process it to see exactly what percentage of days she starts out with negativity. I've only got a week-and-a-half so far; but she is batting a perfect score. She was not negative only two mornings--(1) she was out at a doctor's appointment until the afternoon, and (2) she was out all day due to illness (What ILL? Could her attitude be a factor do you think?...seriously, she by far surpasses anyone in this office for leave-days/sick days...and she has yet to be diangosed with any sort of "provable" illness...it's always based on "a pain I have here" or something that her physician actually tells her outright is "due to stress"--but she says she can't understand that because there is no stress in her life.)

I sincerely believe that negative people do not realize they are negative or that they are perceived as negative. But it is true what they say about viewing the glass half-empty or half-full. Everything is half-empty with her. I don't encourage her, however. Although I find her self-defeating ways somewhat funny (only because she is doing it to herself and can stop anytime she wants), I don't prod it on. I just offer a brief positive assessment/view, and then politely dismiss myself. I don't think it's helpful to encourage such an attitude with undue attention. It doesn't help her, and it certainly doesn't help me to be any more involved with negativity than I have to be.

One day, perhaps she will provide me with enough material to make a joke calendar--"The Pessimist's Calendar: 365 Negative Thoughts to Begin Each Day of the Year!"

Hope you can either avoid this person in the future or find some way to chuckle about her dark attitude toward life. It really is sort of cartoonish if you think about it long enough!

-th

I stumbled across this searching 'Why I am so negative' in hopes of finding...not too sure what the hell I was looking for. I do know that I've been pissing people off because apparently I am negative. Don't want to be, and don't want to be considered negative by everyone around me. I'm not generaly unhappy. I just point out negative things, or things that are wrong. Guess that is bad.
I feel sorry for the woman in your office. It sucks to have people think bad things about you behind your back. My roomates do that to me. Then whenever I have a question like 'why would you run the dish washer at half full' (i am pretty anal) I get slapped with an insult about being anal or negative. If only people would have the balls to say whats on their minds. Rather than penting up aggression and bad thoughts until one day they blow up. Saying whats on your mind starts (or should start a healthy conversation). Thats why I ask questions when something my roomates or girlfriend does that bothers me. I may be anal, but they are apathetic.
Anyone agree? disagree? have general ideas about why I am negative (apparently I am)? what i should do to solve it?